Write from the Heart | Write your Story


Two things have really struck me over the last few weeks and I felt I needed to blog about them. Both lead into the same subject but from different angles. The subject that has been niggling at my conscience: (Warning: this will be a long post.)

Write from the Heart

For the past 6 weeks I have been working on the final edits of my current WIP. Let me tell you…when I say “working” I mean just that. Anyone who says that writing a novel is difficult has obviously never got to the editing stage. For me first drafts are simple. The words, plot and characters flow out onto the page like opening a tap. Why is writing a first draft simple for me? I am a pants-plotter. I am not 100% a pantser nor am I 100% a plotter. I like some form of an outline but I it is just strong enough to light the next 500 words of each scene. But I am a night owl. Which means that I don’t write by day….In a way you could say that I drive at night if my driving is my novel, my headlights are my plot and my time of day is ruled by the light of the moon. I write like a driver who takes a journey at night. I can see just far enough ahead to know I am not going to crash into anything but there is still enough darkness and mystery that I can still be surprised by what turns the journey can take me on. 

I would say that I plot 30% and free-form write about 70%. For me the story has to be written as it comes to me. If I plot too much I tend to lose that emotion that fuels my writing. I plot myself out of the story if I think too much. So, yes, viscerally it is vital that I write that first draft from the heart. I don’t subscribe to writer’s block. I think you write the story as it comes to you. But I do think you can out-think yourself out of the story and ultimately out of the writing which would in turn lead to a brick wall: the notorious writer’s block.

“There is no rule on how to write. Sometimes it comes easily and perfectly; sometimes it is like drilling rock and then blasting it out with charges.” ~ Ernest Hemingway

There are so many writer’s books, writer’s classes and workshops out there both online and in real-time. The information network through these channels as well as social networking can be wonderful but adversely can also be really overwhelming. Information is freedom. Or is it? Can too much information be overwhelming? Like the wise people say, too much of a good thing can be overkill. Yes, sign up for writer’s classes, attend conferences, read craft books and network with other writers and mentors…but when push comes to shove, you have to stop the information overload long enough to shut out the world, open the heart and start writing. To be a writer you have to write. To be a novelist or short story author, you need to finish a novel to a short story. Nobody said it would be easy. In fact, I guarantee you that most people love the dream but fear the reality of being a writer. But you knew this when you decided to write. You have to write because otherwise this story and these characters will not let you rest: they haunt your every hour, day and night. Yes, you must write. So the birth of a first draft starts. 

First draft is just that. Your work is not done when you have got to those magic words “The End” of your first draft. Pat yourself on the back for finishing that story or that novel. Unfortunately though, now the real labour pains of the birthing process start. Writing the first draft was just your pregnancy. It may not have been the smoothest pregnancy and you may have had morning sickness but overall you know your “baby” is growing, changing and getting ready for entry into the real world. Your first draft is just like pregnancy in that it is really something intimate and the writing is for you. It is your chance to get to know this story. It is something that nobody else can do for you. Your real work has not even started until the “9 months” is up and your water breaks. Writing “The End” on your first draft is that water breaking. 

But the real guts and glory are in the labour pains of birth. Writing is not easy but editing is painful. Editing a first draft should not be easy. It should be pain-staking, heart-wrenching and pure “work”. 

If writing is sitting down and opening a vein…Editing is sitting down and cutting the vein.

I always thought that if you write from your heart, you must edit from your brain. In theory this is accurate. But can you out-think your first emotions from your first draft? Can you over-analyze to the point of killing the heart in your story? 

I have realised that unfortunately you can over-analyze a story. I talk from very fresh experience. Funnily enough, I am usually my own worst enemy when it comes to critiquing my own work. However it is also true that like all writers, I can also miss certain elements that need to be corrected in my own work. This is when writing partners and beta readers come into play. If you have good writing partners, they are honest and forthright with you at all times. They are your headlights in the editing journey. But say now you get through that first and second edits (your second draft) with your mental health intact and your manuscript looking better for the cosmetic surgery…What now? 

After both you and your writing partners are satisfied you have done all you can to edit your story, you start submitting and pitching it. If you are lucky enough to get an agent or editor to love your first pitch and they request a partial or a full manuscript, you have to put your hard hat on again and enter the final edits. Of course I am not even mentioning the edits that take place after a manuscript has been accepted by a publisher. No, I am just talking about the edits that may be required of you by the agent or editor in the initial request. 

How far do you take those comments on your manuscript? Do you do a complete edit and rewrite again? Do you tweak only a little using both your intuition for the story and the advice you have been given by agent/editor? When does too much change become overkill for your story and your characters? 

From very fresh personal experience, I can tell you that you can over-analyze your story into overkill. You can also change and rewrite your story so many times that after a while you wake up one morning, look down at the screen or the page and wonder who wrote this story? Too much editing and following too many pieces of advice, no matter how well intentioned, can cause you to fall out of love with your own story. You become an amnesiac and the story that you first wrote has disappeared into the ether of too much editing. If you get to this point, you must stop! If you try to push through determined to follow advice and to get that manuscript just perfect, you will start to feel like you are taking dictation and not creating. You become a secretary and stop being a creative writer.

If the advice you are getting is making you change your story to the degree that you are hating your own story and wanting to put off working on it, you must stop! You need to stop and recognise that your cosmetic surgery is becoming ugly and morphing your story into something unrecognisable. If you have fallen out of love with your story because of over-editing, that lack of emotion will come through and stain the story for any readers. 

“No tears in the writer, no tears in the reader. No surprise in the writer, no surprise in the reader.” ~ Robert Frost

There comes a point where you have to follow the initial stirrings of your heart. At the end of the day you are the writer and this is YOUR story. These characters came to YOU. The story’s idea may not be original in that isn’t every romance like any other or a thriller just a thriller. What is unique and what is special to your story is YOU and YOUR heart/ YOUR emotion. Great emotion that is tenderly written into the spaces between the words is what makes a story a great story. 

Ultimately advice is just that: advice. You choose what information to use and what to throw away. Ultimately YOUR story has to be YOUR story. You have to write from YOUR heart and you have to write YOUR story that you feel. Let that emotion come through and your story will be the better story for it. So yes: write the first draft with your heart, edit the second draft with your brain but the final checks need to be with your heart and your emotion. Be true to that initial emotion and that initial excitement when you first met your characters and heard their story. If you are true to your story and your characters, the story will be true for your readers. Essays come from the brain but stories come from the heart.

Write from the Heart .

Write Your Story.

Edit with your brain but let your heart be the final check.

Editors and agents are not writers. They are salesmen who help you polish up your story, promote it and market it to sell it. Don’t ever forget YOU are the Writer. It is YOUR story. If you feel strongly enough about keeping something in your story, then you MUST be true to that. It is called instinct. It is called creative license. It is: You writing Your story. Be true to it! Be true to you!

“There can be no knowledge without emotion. We may be aware of a truth, yet until we have felt its force, it is not ours. To the cognition of the brain must be added the experience of the soul.” ~ Arnold Bennett

Have you ever over-edited the heart out of your story? Or have you ever been told to remove something / change something vital from your story? What did you do in the end? 

11 thoughts on “Write from the Heart | Write your Story

  1. Awesome post, Kim 🙂 Love all the quotes and your message is spot on! Thanks for reminding me not to get bogged down, but to revel in the love of writing, yet still produce the best.
    You’re fantastic 🙂

  2. this might be a different take on the situation, and let me preface this with I am not a professional writer (of literature at least) there always needs to be editing, but you can edit for ever. At some point you have to let the cards fall on the table, put your money in, or fold em.

    Getting some one else that knows you and your writing style is a great help also. Many times when I write I will let my wife edit. Switching from right brain to left and back can cause a lot of issues.

    2nd regarding plot. I would think the more you keep plot out of your mind the better. just let things go where they want. Only because, when you think of a plot you will try to perfect. Realty does not plot perfectly. The stories that have effected me the most have been the ones that did not have the story book ending but the one that was real. There is a saying. “Shit happens” and thats it. It doesn’t continue to go on say thing that it happens fair, romantically, justly, honestly, or perfect. It just happens. A story with characters that react real will be much better then a story with involved plot.

    1. So true Peter…..the best stories are the one that surprise the reader…it is not all neatly tied up…also good advice to get someone that knows you and your writing style help with editing but in the end you need to listen to the story more than anyone else.

  3. This is a great post and I so agree. My first book is part of a series (part II is in production and I am working on part III) and since part way through writing the first one ideas came to me and the flow of the story I wanted to tell and the journey I was going to go on with my characters became evident.in my mind. I hit some rough spots with my first book, some mistakes I made, which I saw after my book had been published. (long story) I was told that maybe I should give up on this series and start with something fresh, but I couldn’t do that. I couldn’t just abandon my characters and turn my back on my ideas.
    The first book may have hit some bumps, but I don’t think anything too bad. My second book has already been praised by my ‘new’ editor and my reading partner
    said my writing has grown..
    As much as I may want an audience of readers and want to be appealing to them, it comes down to the fact that I am writing for me. I don’t want to seem selfish, but if I’m not writing for me I think my writing would become worthless and a waste of time for anyone else.

    1. This is so true Mark. We tell the stories for ourselves first. If you are in love with your story, the readers will fall in love with it too. So glad you were true to your heart and pressed on with your story. It takes courage to stick with a story and characters other people are telling you to drop or change.
      Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

  4. Whoa!….loved the post and loved the comments just as much….. serious stuff to think about….. I agree with miss P, you need heart as well as a voice to make a story.

    1. Hi patient dreamer (love that name btw) thanks for stopping by…yes it has been a subject that has been irking me lately and talking to fellow writers I know that it is not a unique problem.. At the end of the day a writer with no heart is just a person taking dictation or a puppet allowing someone else to pull the strings…a story without heart is dead in the water before it even hits the deep waters. Glad the topic resonated with you. 🙂

  5. I agree with most of this, Kim–but for me the editing is actually as creative and fun as the writing of the first draft. I embrace it, treat it like my opportunity to polish the gem I uncovered until it glows and catches every bit of light. I LOVE it because I choose to. And that makes the ego/logic stuff much easier to process.

    We’ve been told so often editing is work, it’s hard, it hurts, you’ll hate your manuscript before you’re done… that it becomes true. And yes, having too many opinions and voices trying to influence you can make it exactly that kind of journey. YUCK! Who wants that? And why do we think it’s necessary? Because we’ve been told time and again there’s no way your work could ever be good enough until it’s torn apart and put back together.

    While sometimes that’s necessary, it needs to be done with love and happiness, not fear and stress fed by the very part of you that has no freaking clue what to do with what you just made.

    It really doesn’t have to be that way. Nor do I think ego and/or the logical mind has much of a place when it comes to editing. Rather, if you trust the creative side that made it in the first place, you’re much better off. Not to mention finding the RIGHT people to offer input–and only accepting that which feels right to forward your work.

    NEVER EVER change the core of what you created for someone else’s need. If they want a story like that, tell them to write it. The thing is, the moment you compromise the creation itself from a place of heaviness or “should”, you give up the thread you had connecting you to the creative place that serves you.

    That’s why your heart struggles and you want to walk away. No wonder so many writers decide to ditch their work and quit. Because logic has taken over in a place where it shouldn’t have power.

    I’m not saying your work shouldn’t make sense — of course it must. But your heart is the source of the thing to begin with–why do we cut it out of the editing process?

    Great post,

    1. So agree with everything you just wrote Miss P! Which is why I stopped …. checked my heart …. and went back to the heart of my story…Believe me all the angst was just a time waste but in the end a valuable lesson and one that I will remember every time I begin a new editing process. Thank YOU for being an ear and a wise word when I needed it…Love ya tons. And Yay I am back to loving the story again. x

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